Open Relationships & Ethical Non-Monogamy Therapy
Therapy for ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships—communication, boundaries, and relational resilience.
Available in-person in Scottsdale & virtual therapy offered throughout the Phoenix, Arizona metro area.
The majority of my ethical non-monogamy therapy clients fall into three broad categories:
Exploration Phase
You and your partner have talked about opening things up. You’re both excited, but also feeling scared that it’ll change your relationship and overwhelmed by where to start. Maybe you started reading some books or watching some reels, and you’ve learned about some of the terms.
You might also be exploring solo polyamory, or an individual wanting support in navigating multiple relationships. This space is for you, no matter what your relationship orientation is.
You’re just not sure how to do this right. You’re hoping for some help on how to navigate this intentionally.
Learning to Swim
You’ve already dived into the world of open relationships, and educated yourself on the subject. So much of it aligns with your values, how you see the world. You firmly believe that it’s absolutely possible to love and care for more than one person. You thought your relationship was solid and that you were on the same page, but all of a sudden, things you’ve never had challenges around are coming up. Jealousy, scheduling challenges, new relationship energy, making time for everyone involved. Things don’t feel as secure, and some hurts are popping up.
You might need support around repairing, restoring trust, or improving your communication so you both feel heard and seen around your needs, and start connecting again.
Deep Dive
You’ve been engaging in polyamory or ENM for a while, and you’ve put in so much hard work on communication, making sure everyone involved is cared for, working through jealousy. Negative patterns have started emerging though, with metas struggling to get along, one partner feeling left out, or two partners ganging up on the rest of the polycule. You might be struggling with how to blend families.
You care deeply about the family and polycule you’ve built. You are needing tools to get along as a group, and communicate efficiently through hiccups and hurdles.
You’re wondering if it’s time the whole polycule get support as a whole.
What navigating your open relationship with me looks like:
You don’t have to educate me on poly words and concepts to get support.
You don’t have to worry that I’ll judge you or blame polyamory for your problems.
Being a queer, kink & poly affirmative relationship therapist means I’ve been there, and I know how to support you through these challenges.
I believe there are so many valid ways to love. I can help you figure out what works for you all, and gain the confidence to navigate the world of open relationships.
Depending on where you’re at in your exploration, our work looks like a blend of psycho-education, concrete tools, as well as deep emotional processing and practicing vulnerability.
Support for your relationships on your terms.
Ethical non-monogamy affirming therapy can help you answer questions like this:
How do I know ENM is for me as an individual, or for us as a couple?
What do I want, and how do I compromise with my partner(s) who might want something different?
How do I stay true to my authentic self and explore ENM from an intentional and aligned place?
What is this tension showing up between us, and how do we work through it?
How do we communicate effectively while we’re juggling multiple people’s needs and wants?
How do we repair and heal when things go wrong?
In therapy, we’ll explore these questions together. I’ll help you come up with goals that fit where you’re at in the process, so that you can get back on track and move forward with alignment, connection and confidence.
Your relationships don’t have to fit someone else’s mold.
Variety is beautiful. Challenging the status quo is hard because we don’t have a clear script for how to navigate things. That’s exactly why therapy can be a safe, non-judgmental space to explore, deeply connect, get clear about what’s important, but most importantly to enjoy the process and have fun with your partner(s)!