Couples & Sex Therapy for Couples in AZ
For couples of all identities struggling with intimacy, connection and communication.
Somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling like a team.
Maybe you’re stuck in cycle where one of you is trying to have conversations that the other partner starts to avoid out of fear of conflict. Maybe neurodivergence is creating challenges in the way you communicate about chores and the mental load. Maybe you’re carrying old patterns of communication that you’ve learned from your family or previous relationships that no longer serve you. Maybe one of you wants sex and intimacy more than the other, which leaves the person wanting more feeling tired of rejection, and the person with lower libido feeling inadequate and pressured. Or maybe one or both of you have experienced trauma in your past that shapes your responses to each other and creates further disconnect and hurt.
Whatever the details, you both deserve a relationship where you feel fully seen and safely held.
Couples Therapy can help you:
Identify your needs and create safety around expressing them
Practice sharing with your partner from a place of emotional vulnerability, rather than reactivity
Communicate clearly and calmly, even during conflict
Reconnect with your partner and find ways to understand and bridge the intimacy gap
Understand each other’s way of processing, previous trauma or the unique ways your brain and nervous systems work, so you can help each other feel safe and seen
How I support clients navigating relationship stress:
I help both partners examine where their responses and reactions are coming from, and I work with them to help regulate, ask for what they need, as well as learn to be a team with their partner. I help couples become aware of their negative pattern, and learn what keeps them stuck in that place.
I’m not here to take sides, I’m on your relationship’s side.
We’ll also practice noticing what’s coming up in the moment in session, and turn to share with each other the vulnerable emotions that are coming up. This might feel awkward at first, but it makes such a difference in your ability to experience safety together.
Insight is important, but experiencing something new is where real change begins to happen. Because it feels possible.
It’s the difference between knowing I should talk to my partner, and feeling like it’s okay to share this with them.
If there’s a need, we can also dig into some old hurts that haven’t been resolved and that carry resentment and mistrust between the two of you. The goal isn’t to live in the past, but resolve old wounds so it doesn’t keep impacting your present.
"Most people are going to have two or three marriages or committed relationships in their adult life. Some of us will have them with the same person."
–Esther Perel
I know this can all feel overwhelming and exhausting to navigate, especially when you feel like you’ve been having the same fights on repeat. It might also be hard to know where to start. I’m here to help slow this down, hold the hope that change and growth is possible when we feel safe.
Let’s create a foundation that stands the test of time.
You deserve to have a relationship that feels good. Life is full of hardships and ups and downs, and it would all feel so much easier to navigate when we’re in a relationship that feels safe and secure. We can work towards that together, so you can enjoy your connection and thrive together.
